About Dr Mari

Dr Mari Kovanen, CPsychol, is a counselling psychologist in private practice in Central London and in Reigate, Surrey. She has a specialist interest in working with individuals who have experienced childhood trauma and/or emotional neglect. Her another interest is providing relationship counselling both for individuals and couples. info@drmarikovanen.co.uk
18 10, 2017

Why is understanding our emotions and feelings so important?

By | October 18th, 2017|0 Comments

James* took pride in himself for being a rational man who doesn’t get emotional and he excelled at work. However, although he looked cool and collected on the surface, internally he always had a feeling that he didn’t belong and he had to prove himself to earn people's respect. [...]

26 09, 2017

7 Steps for transforming your relationship – Part 2: Establishing a safe emotional bond and maintaining love

By | September 26th, 2017|0 Comments

Sue and Steve* recognise that they have become distant in their relationship since having children and they don't have a safe emotional bond. They are bickering over the smallest things, often over matters that feel trivial but at the time it feels like there is a huge wall between them [...]

22 08, 2017

7 Steps for transforming your relationship – Part 1: Assessing relationship patterns and sore spots

By | August 22nd, 2017|0 Comments

Kate and Tom have been together for 5 years. They are both professionals and have successful careers. They used to get along so well but more recently end up arguing more and more. Kate says that it is because Tom doesn’t listen to her and he is insensitive whilst [...]

28 07, 2017

Healing the mother wound – Part 2: 10 Steps to healing from emotional absence

By | July 28th, 2017|1 Comment

The greatest pain of all – the mother wound, the emotional absence of your mother in your early years. The first part of this 2-part series looked at what the mother wound means and how it can impact your well-being as an adult. The mother wound can be defined as [...]

10 07, 2017

Healing the mother wound – Part 1: Understanding the mother wound, good enough mothering and the impact of the mother wound as an adult

By | July 10th, 2017|4 Comments

Perhaps the most painful of all feelings is the awareness that your mother was not there for you emotionally as a child, this creates the mother wound. She might have been physically present but emotionally absent. Perhaps she was (is) very critical and she was telling [...]

19 06, 2017

When worry and anxiety are ruining your (work) life – 10 Tips for finding joy in your life

By | June 19th, 2017|0 Comments

Laura* is a driven woman in her late 30s. She has climbed up the career ladder, is successful in her job, has great friends and enjoys amazing holidays abroad. On paper, everything looks perfect in her life, but she carries a secret that she has only shared with few [...]

12 06, 2017

How do our early relationships impact adult well-being & relationships?

By | June 12th, 2017|0 Comments

From the day we are born, we start to form relationships with people in our world and these early relationships guide our later relationships even in adulthood. The aim of this blog post is to explain how these early relationships often impact our intimate relationships in adulthood: what type [...]

28 05, 2017

Toxic relationships 3: Moving on & dating after a toxic relationship

By | May 28th, 2017|0 Comments

Liliana* spent many years in an on-off toxic relationship with a partner who was controlling until she had the courage to say “enough is enough”. It was hard initially making the break and she spent a considerable amount of time reflecting on what had kept her in [...]

10 05, 2017

Toxic relationships: recognising, healing and moving on after a toxic relationship – Part 2

By | May 10th, 2017|0 Comments

Healing your heart after a toxic relationship “Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.” - Unknown Jane* was in her early 30s when she started going out with Mike after they met when they were [...]