You feel alone and disconnected. Excessive worry is ruining your life. This may have preceded Covid-19, but the current state of the world may be triggering you even further.
You are generally dissatisfied with the direction of your life and the quality of your relationships with your partner, family or people you spend time with.
You long for a fulfilling relationship with your partner and deep & meaningful connections with other people in your life. You want to belong.
You feel like you are different from everyone else and feel this internal emptiness, but you are not sure what is causing that. Perhaps you have tried to fill it in with food, relationships, drinking too much or perhaps even tried some therapy, but it still remains.
You often feel ashamed and/or guilt for many things and this is stopping you from having the life you wish to have: a life full of joy and fulfilling relationships.
You are now ready to take ownership of your life, get rid of the excessive worrying, start healing and work towards living wholeheartedly – feeling happier and more content in your life and having a sense of belonging?
Registered counselling psychologist offering psychological therapy in Reigate, Surrey, & online counselling

Booking for a free 15min consultation is now very easy and convenient for you as you can check the availability online. You can access therapy either in-person in Reigate clinic or have therapy online from the comfort of your own home or other convenient place.
Dr Mari Kovanen, CPsychol
North Cottage, 11 Dovers Green Rd, Reigate, RH2 8BU
Email info@drmarikovanen.co.uk
Services
A very warm welcome!
I’m so glad you are here and looking for support and a way out of that emotional pain. My goal is to support you to get to a life that is rich and fulfilling with an internal sense of calmness, confidence, resilience and having deep & meaningful relationships.
My name is Dr. Mari Kovanen, CPsychol, a registered and chartered counselling psychologist. I have a deep and genuine interest in working with individuals who have experienced adverse childhood experiences, whether it is a childhood trauma of any kind, you define it, and/or childhood emotional neglect (CEN). My other specialist interest is supporting individuals with relationship difficulties. This could be anything from being single and struggling to find a partner, being in an unhappy/toxic relationship, to recovering from a break-up. I also love working with couples and helping them to rebuild their emotional connection and be able to live wholeheartedly together.
Take your first step now towards living wholeheartedly and having fulfilling relationships – get in touch! Book your FREE 15min consultation here.
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