About Dr Mari

Dr Mari Kovanen, CPsychol, is a counselling psychologist in private practice in Reigate, Surrey. She has a specialist interest in working with individuals who have experienced childhood trauma and/or emotional neglect. Her another interest is providing relationship counselling both for individuals and couples. info@drmarikovanen.co.uk
27 03, 2020

Childhood trauma & Covid-19 -related anxiety – What is being triggered by the lockdown and how to cope with it

By |2020-03-29T21:48:57+00:00March 27th, 2020|0 Comments

As we are almost a week into the lockdown in the UK due to the global pandemic, there is a lot of anxiety and worry in the air. You may be wondering whether you will get the virus or your loved ones, or you might have already had it, worried [...]

20 03, 2020

Coping with difficult times – Do more what makes your heart sing

By |2020-03-28T20:48:22+00:00March 20th, 2020|0 Comments

We are living in very unsettling times. The news is full of the V-word and we are constantly updated (bombarded) with images or information in the media and social media. You may wonder how can you cope with all of this anxiety that either or those near you carry. Our [...]

26 02, 2020

What to do when your Mother Wound gets triggered?

By |2020-02-28T14:47:52+00:00February 26th, 2020|0 Comments

Mother wound, the deep emotional pain that can impact you in so many ways. Perhaps you have learnt to live with it and developed coping strategies, some of which may be helpful whilst others are unhelpful even harmful in the long run such as avoiding situations which feel emotionally challenging, [...]

20 12, 2019

Surviving the holidays after experiencing big life changes this year

By |2019-12-20T23:55:36+00:00December 20th, 2019|0 Comments

Perhaps you have had a break up, divorce, split in the family, lost a loved one or experienced another type of big change in your life circumstances this year. Perhaps you are dreading the bank holidays, because the life you used to know is very different now and you fear [...]

19 10, 2019

What qualities make a healthy relationship?

By |2019-10-20T13:06:38+00:00October 19th, 2019|0 Comments

Alex and Jamie met in their early 30s. They met through friends and shared similar interests in travelling, exercise, outdoor life and values of wanting to be in a long-term relationship with a partner. They both wanted to have a long-term relationship with the prospect of having a family one [...]

13 09, 2019

8 Consequences of the father wound on well-being and relationships

By |2019-09-19T12:04:48+00:00September 13th, 2019|0 Comments

Relationships with men have always been difficult for Jane*. She has often ended up having relationships with emotionally unavailable men. They may initially show interest yet as she starts to attach and show interest in them, they disappear or withdraw from contact by coming up with various excuses. She has [...]

31 08, 2019

Is fear of being influenced by other ruining your relationship?

By |2019-09-02T10:59:38+00:00August 31st, 2019|0 Comments

When you are approaching a new task at home and even after a few trials, it is not working out for you, how do you feel about the prospect of having to ask for help from your partner? Or how do you feel when you do not know something and [...]

30 06, 2019

Ending the emptiness and loneliness of Childhood Emotional Neglect

By |2019-10-31T22:43:45+00:00June 30th, 2019|0 Comments

William* is a man who on the outside looks like he has everything going on for him. He has a good job, a partner and children. William has always felt like there is something missing in his life but he cannot pinpoint what that might be as there is no [...]

21 05, 2019

Parenting when you have experienced Childhood Emotional Neglect or trauma

By |2019-05-30T00:41:54+00:00May 21st, 2019|0 Comments

What is your gut reaction when you hear your child cry and you cannot see them? Perhaps you panic thinking that they are in danger and something is seriously wrong with them? You get annoyed thinking “not again, I just want a bit of peace and quiet!”? You experience concern [...]