About Dr Mari

Dr Mari Kovanen, CPsychol, is a counselling psychologist in private practice in Reigate, Surrey. She has a specialist interest in working with individuals who have experienced childhood trauma and/or emotional neglect. Her another interest is providing relationship counselling both for individuals and couples. info@drmarikovanen.co.uk
20 06, 2022

The roots of loneliness in a disconnected relationship

By |2022-06-20T12:00:22+00:00June 20th, 2022|0 Comments

Sam and Dina met in their late 20s and suddenly, 10 years later, they found themselves feeling almost like strangers and even enemies to each other. “What happened to us?” They often asked themselves. We were so in love and had fun with each other. The years of building a career [...]

15 11, 2021

Mother wound and the role of reparenting in healing

By |2021-11-16T10:39:32+00:00November 15th, 2021|0 Comments

Jake* has a business and he has made it into a success. He has a family with kids and a partner. His life is on the outside very good and people in his environment would not know how the external success and the internal feeling of always being on the [...]

2 02, 2021

What is behind the relationship anxiety?

By |2021-09-16T11:36:11+00:00February 2nd, 2021|0 Comments

How do you feel when your partner is out of sight? Do you often become preoccupied with worrying about your relationship if your partner is away from you for, for example, when they go to work elsewhere or you live in different addresses? Perhaps you start imagining potential situations of [...]

28 12, 2020

3 Common questions about Childhood emotional neglect (CEN) and the mother wound

By |2020-12-28T21:14:43+00:00December 28th, 2020|0 Comments

How is Childhood Emotional Neglect impacting you? You probably have many questions about it. I thought that I’ll answer here some of the most commonly asked questions, and hopefully, they will help you too. Some of my other posts talked about CEN previously: Ending the emptiness and loneliness of Childhood [...]

26 11, 2020

How may the lockdown and social distancing impact your relationship?

By |2020-11-26T12:42:07+00:00November 26th, 2020|0 Comments

What does it feel like being in your relationship right now? Do you feel alone and disconnected, perhaps stuck as you are forced to spend more time together under the same roof. Perhaps previously you and your partner gradually developed quite separate lies and the lockdown and social distancing rules [...]

23 09, 2020

Childhood trauma: How did you have to adapt to survive your childhood?

By |2020-09-24T15:00:30+00:00September 23rd, 2020|0 Comments

If you have experienced childhood trauma or childhood emotional neglect (CEN), have you noticed behaviour patterns that may be unhelpful for you? Perhaps you often end up agreeing to things when it does not suit you. Maybe you struggle to get your voice heard when you have something important to [...]

9 06, 2020

3 Key Steps Towards Peaceful Parenting: Parenting when you have experienced inadequate parenting and bringing up children who will change the world

By |2020-06-09T11:50:22+00:00June 9th, 2020|0 Comments

In the past few weeks, you have been living under very unusual circumstances and spent most of your 24 hrs in a day with your family. There may have been the added pressure of homeschooling. You may have been triggered & on high alert a lot of the time and/or [...]

27 03, 2020

Childhood trauma & Covid-19 -related anxiety – What is being triggered by the lockdown and how to cope with it

By |2020-03-29T21:48:57+00:00March 27th, 2020|0 Comments

As we are almost a week into the lockdown in the UK due to the global pandemic, there is a lot of anxiety and worry in the air. You may be wondering whether you will get the virus or your loved ones, or you might have already had it, worried [...]

20 03, 2020

Coping with difficult times – Do more what makes your heart sing

By |2020-03-28T20:48:22+00:00March 20th, 2020|0 Comments

We are living in very unsettling times. The news is full of the V-word and we are constantly updated (bombarded) with images or information in the media and social media. You may wonder how can you cope with all of this anxiety that either or those near you carry. Our [...]

26 02, 2020

What to do when your Mother Wound gets triggered?

By |2020-02-28T14:47:52+00:00February 26th, 2020|1 Comment

Mother wound, the deep emotional pain that can impact you in so many ways. Perhaps you have learnt to live with it and developed coping strategies, some of which may be helpful whilst others are unhelpful even harmful in the long run such as avoiding situations which feel emotionally challenging, [...]

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