About Dr Mari

Dr Mari Kovanen, CPsychol, is a counselling psychologist in private practice in Reigate, Surrey. She has a specialist interest in working with individuals who have experienced childhood trauma and/or emotional neglect. Her another interest is providing relationship counselling both for individuals and couples. info@drmarikovanen.co.uk
12 02, 2025

Disconnected relationship – The behaviours that ruin your relationship

By |2025-02-25T12:22:29+00:00February 12th, 2025|0 Comments

How can I create more intimacy in my relationship? Does it feel like there is a huge wall between you? You cannot communicate and feel close to each other anymore. Perhaps the number one question both individual clients who have relationship difficulties and couples have is how can I create [...]

22 01, 2025

Father wound – Living with the legacy of having an angry father

By |2025-01-23T15:41:18+00:00January 22nd, 2025|0 Comments

J* is in a relationship and a father of two small children. He works and feels pressured at work. He feels that he is not progressing in his career as well as he would like. He often feels low too and cannot quite pinpoint why. He feels he “should have [...]

10 10, 2024

ADHD and Trauma – Understanding the overlap in experiences

By |2024-10-14T17:10:34+00:00October 10th, 2024|0 Comments

Recently more and more people I encounter have either been diagnosed with ADHD or find themselves wondering what their symptoms mean: Are they related to being neurodivergent or are they potentially related to childhood trauma (PTSD - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or C-PTSD).  So I thought it was important to [...]

21 06, 2024

Why do I keep attracting the wrong men?

By |2024-06-21T17:26:43+00:00June 21st, 2024|0 Comments

Lauren* was a busy professional woman who had always done what was expected of her…She had done well in school, went to university and got a great career.  Her professional life was thriving most of the time, but in her relationships she was often drawn to men who were emotionally [...]

27 04, 2024

Healing Childhood Trauma with EMDR Therapy: A Path to Hope and Recovery

By |2024-06-06T11:09:01+00:00April 27th, 2024|0 Comments

Are you haunted by memories of childhood trauma? Do you find yourself grappling with anxiety, depression, or relationship difficulties, perhaps stemming from a mother wound, father wound, or other painful experiences in your past? If so, you're not alone. But there is hope for healing, and one powerful tool in [...]

29 01, 2024

How to heal your relationship anxiety

By |2024-01-29T11:56:58+00:00January 29th, 2024|0 Comments

What does relationship anxiety look like? Relationship anxiety is a very common form of anxiety. It is the feeling of intense worry when you are either separated from your partner or there is an emotional threat (disconnection) to the relationship.  There are very good reasons why you have developed [...]

19 12, 2023

Surviving the holidays with difficult family dynamics

By |2023-12-19T15:41:35+00:00December 19th, 2023|0 Comments

Do you (secretly) dread the holidays? Have you got family members you feel you have to see but you would rather stay away from them? Perhaps you are navigating co-parenting with a toxic ex as well. The holiday season, while often portrayed as a time of joy and togetherness, can [...]

9 09, 2022

Loss, Mother Wound And Relationships

By |2022-09-10T07:23:57+00:00September 9th, 2022|1 Comment

Today you like so many of us on this planet may be affected in some ways by the news of the passing of Queen Elizabeth II. News like this often brings up difficult feelings related to perhaps other losses in life and, of course, for people living in the UK, [...]

20 06, 2022

The roots of loneliness in a disconnected relationship

By |2022-06-20T12:00:22+00:00June 20th, 2022|0 Comments

Sam and Dina met in their late 20s and suddenly, 10 years later, they found themselves feeling almost like strangers and even enemies to each other. “What happened to us?” They often asked themselves. We were so in love and had fun with each other. The years of building a career [...]

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