About Dr Mari

Dr Mari Kovanen, CPsychol, is a counselling psychologist in private practice in Reigate, Surrey. She has a specialist interest in working with individuals who have experienced childhood trauma and/or emotional neglect. Her another interest is providing relationship counselling both for individuals and couples. info@drmarikovanen.co.uk
6 12, 2018

How to not run out of steam and survive the festive season

By |2018-12-10T21:35:05+00:00December 6th, 2018|0 Comments

Are you already starting to dread how you’ll manage the whole festive period without burning out? You may feel that there are so many demands on you during the festive period. Perhaps you have always been the one that organises everything for everyone else Perhaps you are worried about getting [...]

27 11, 2018

What is the meaning of shame in your life?

By |2018-12-09T21:50:00+00:00November 27th, 2018|0 Comments

Lucy* often doubts herself and questions her decisions in life. She is struggling with anxiety and low mood. Often, she finds herself blushing when the attention is directed at her and she wants to hide away. Life feels difficult as Lucy tries to be a “good girl” and do what [...]

9 06, 2018

Does your life spark joy? KonMari decluttering philosophy could help with improving your emotional well-being

By |2018-06-14T21:56:06+00:00June 9th, 2018|0 Comments

Bea* has a busy life: finding balance with the demands of her life is difficult (work, family, friends & self). She often feels overwhelmed with everything even her charity work that used to bring her joy now feels just like another task that is draining her. Bea is often [...]

20 03, 2018

16 Cognitive errors impacting your well-being and relationships

By |2018-03-26T15:17:59+00:00March 20th, 2018|0 Comments

How often do you try to guess what someone else is thinking whether it is your partner, a friend or a work colleague or boss and then potentially act based on what you thought they said or meant? Perhaps you find it difficult to see any good things in [...]

21 02, 2018

“I have to be….” – What is Your perfectionism covering?

By |2018-02-21T16:55:42+00:00February 21st, 2018|0 Comments

Laura* often feels stressed out and tries to be the perfect employee, a partner, and a mother. She is the one who puts 110% effort into everything and always thinks of others. She feels ashamed if she is not able to achieve her standards. She feels that her world [...]

19 01, 2018

Why is it difficult for me to make changes in my life?

By |2018-01-19T10:48:21+00:00January 19th, 2018|0 Comments

It is that time of the year again, many of us want to make changes in our lives: in relationships, lifestyle (diet, exercise, & relaxation), work, and/or our relationship with ourselves.  Many of us make promises to ourselves to change our behaviours and life but often soon stop doing [...]

6 12, 2017

How to survive the festive season with a dysfunctional family

By |2017-12-11T14:00:12+00:00December 6th, 2017|0 Comments

The holiday season can bring out the best and worst in us and in our family members as potentially a lot of time is spent together and there often are expectations for the celebrations. We may have a wish to have a wonderful festive season like in the Hollywood films [...]

18 10, 2017

Why is understanding our emotions and feelings so important?

By |2017-10-19T13:54:58+00:00October 18th, 2017|0 Comments

James* took pride in himself for being a rational man who doesn’t get emotional and he excelled at work. However, although he looked cool and collected on the surface, internally he always had a feeling that he didn’t belong and he had to prove himself to earn people's respect. [...]

26 09, 2017

7 Steps for transforming your relationship – Part 2: Establishing a safe emotional bond and maintaining love

By |2017-09-27T15:18:50+00:00September 26th, 2017|0 Comments

Sue and Steve* recognise that they have become distant in their relationship since having children and they don't have a safe emotional bond. They are bickering over the smallest things, often over matters that feel trivial but at the time it feels like there is a huge wall between them [...]

22 08, 2017

7 Steps for transforming your relationship – Part 1: Assessing relationship patterns and sore spots

By |2017-09-27T15:19:50+00:00August 22nd, 2017|0 Comments

Kate and Tom have been together for 5 years. They are both professionals and have successful careers. They used to get along so well but more recently end up arguing more and more. Kate says that it is because Tom doesn’t listen to her and he is insensitive whilst [...]