About Dr Mari

Dr Mari Kovanen, CPsychol, is a counselling psychologist in private practice in Reigate, Surrey. She has a specialist interest in working with individuals who have experienced childhood trauma and/or emotional neglect. Her another interest is providing relationship counselling both for individuals and couples. info@drmarikovanen.co.uk
17 03, 2019

Top 5 most read blog posts on relationships, childhood neglect and trauma

By |2019-03-17T21:56:52+00:00March 17th, 2019|0 Comments

For this month’s post, I wanted to bring together the five most read posts on my website in the past year in case someone hasn’t seen them yet. I started blogging about three years ago. My aim was to be able to give through my writing hope for healing and [...]

12 02, 2019

Emotional flexibility vs. rigidity – How childhood emotional neglect or trauma can make it difficult for you to adapt to sudden changes

By |2019-02-12T23:02:44+00:00February 12th, 2019|0 Comments

What happens when your plan is messed up by sudden, unexpected events? You make plans and are either looking forward to something or are relying on things to be working and then something happens and your plans are changed. Such as: You have Christmas planned with the family and friends, [...]

8 01, 2019

7 principles to make this your best year yet – Part 2

By |2019-01-08T22:47:15+00:00January 8th, 2019|0 Comments

Are you looking for happiness in your life? How is your New Year coming along now that a couple of weeks has already passed? This week was the “Blue Monday”, which has been named the most depressing day of the year. If you felt it, your year does not have [...]

6 12, 2018

How to not run out of steam and survive the festive season

By |2018-12-10T21:35:05+00:00December 6th, 2018|0 Comments

Are you already starting to dread how you’ll manage the whole festive period without burning out? You may feel that there are so many demands on you during the festive period. Perhaps you have always been the one that organises everything for everyone else Perhaps you are worried about getting [...]

27 11, 2018

What is the meaning of shame in your life?

By |2018-12-09T21:50:00+00:00November 27th, 2018|0 Comments

Lucy* often doubts herself and questions her decisions in life. She is struggling with anxiety and low mood. Often, she finds herself blushing when the attention is directed at her and she wants to hide away. Life feels difficult as Lucy tries to be a “good girl” and do what [...]

9 06, 2018

Does your life spark joy? KonMari decluttering philosophy could help with improving your emotional well-being

By |2018-06-14T21:56:06+00:00June 9th, 2018|0 Comments

Bea* has a busy life: finding balance with the demands of her life is difficult (work, family, friends & self). She often feels overwhelmed with everything even her charity work that used to bring her joy now feels just like another task that is draining her. Bea is often [...]

20 03, 2018

16 Cognitive errors impacting your well-being and relationships

By |2019-03-04T16:21:21+00:00March 20th, 2018|0 Comments

How often do you try to guess what someone else is thinking whether it is your partner, a friend or a work colleague or boss and then potentially act based on what you thought they said or meant? Perhaps you find it difficult to see any good things in [...]

21 02, 2018

“I have to be….” – What is Your perfectionism covering?

By |2019-03-04T16:23:56+00:00February 21st, 2018|0 Comments

Laura* often feels stressed out and tries to be the perfect employee, a partner, and a mother. She is the one who puts 110% effort into everything and always thinks of others. She feels ashamed if she is not able to achieve her standards. She feels that her world [...]

19 01, 2018

Why is it difficult for me to make changes in my life?

By |2018-01-19T10:48:21+00:00January 19th, 2018|0 Comments

It is that time of the year again, many of us want to make changes in our lives: in relationships, lifestyle (diet, exercise, & relaxation), work, and/or our relationship with ourselves.  Many of us make promises to ourselves to change our behaviours and life but often soon stop doing [...]

7 01, 2018

Want a change? 7 principles to make this your best year yet – Part I

By |2019-01-08T22:41:20+00:00January 7th, 2018|0 Comments

Are you suffering from the post-holiday blues and wondering how to improve your life? Perhaps you are dreading that this year will be just the repeat of the same, living with stress and anxiety. Maybe you have a very busy life and there are a lot of demands on you [...]