About Dr Mari

Dr Mari Kovanen, CPsychol, is a counselling psychologist in private practice in Reigate, Surrey. She has a specialist interest in working with individuals who have experienced childhood trauma and/or emotional neglect. Her another interest is providing relationship counselling both for individuals and couples. info@drmarikovanen.co.uk
19 10, 2019

What qualities make a healthy relationship?

By |2019-10-20T13:06:38+00:00October 19th, 2019|0 Comments

Alex and Jamie met in their early 30s. They met through friends and shared similar interests in travelling, exercise, outdoor life and values of wanting to be in a long-term relationship with a partner. They both wanted to have a long-term relationship with the prospect of having a family one [...]

13 09, 2019

8 Consequences of the father wound on well-being and relationships

By |2019-09-19T12:04:48+00:00September 13th, 2019|0 Comments

Relationships with men have always been difficult for Jane*. She has often ended up having relationships with emotionally unavailable men. They may initially show interest yet as she starts to attach and show interest in them, they disappear or withdraw from contact by coming up with various excuses. She has [...]

31 08, 2019

Is fear of being influenced by other ruining your relationship?

By |2019-09-02T10:59:38+00:00August 31st, 2019|0 Comments

When you are approaching a new task at home and even after a few trials, it is not working out for you, how do you feel about the prospect of having to ask for help from your partner? Or how do you feel when you do not know something and [...]

30 06, 2019

Ending the emptiness and loneliness of Childhood Emotional Neglect

By |2019-10-31T22:43:45+00:00June 30th, 2019|0 Comments

William* is a man who on the outside looks like he has everything going on for him. He has a good job, a partner and children. William has always felt like there is something missing in his life but he cannot pinpoint what that might be as there is no [...]

21 05, 2019

Parenting when you have experienced Childhood Emotional Neglect or trauma

By |2019-05-30T00:41:54+00:00May 21st, 2019|0 Comments

What is your gut reaction when you hear your child cry and you cannot see them? Perhaps you panic thinking that they are in danger and something is seriously wrong with them? You get annoyed thinking “not again, I just want a bit of peace and quiet!”? You experience concern [...]

30 04, 2019

People pleasing can make you anxious and resentful – How to stop it?

By |2019-05-30T00:06:07+00:00April 30th, 2019|0 Comments

Emma* would describe herself as having a strong maternal instinct and she has always seen her role as the one that is there for others and she just wants others to be happy. When a family member or a friend is in need, she is there to support them. She [...]

17 03, 2019

Top 5 most read blog posts on relationships, childhood neglect and trauma

By |2019-03-17T21:56:52+00:00March 17th, 2019|0 Comments

For this month’s post, I wanted to bring together the five most read posts on my website in the past year in case someone hasn’t seen them yet. I started blogging about three years ago. My aim was to be able to give through my writing hope for healing and [...]

12 02, 2019

Emotional flexibility vs. rigidity – How childhood emotional neglect or trauma can make it difficult for you to adapt to sudden changes

By |2019-02-12T23:02:44+00:00February 12th, 2019|0 Comments

What happens when your plan is messed up by sudden, unexpected events? You make plans and are either looking forward to something or are relying on things to be working and then something happens and your plans are changed. Such as: You have Christmas planned with the family and friends, [...]