About Dr Mari

Dr Mari Kovanen, CPsychol, is a counselling psychologist in private practice in Reigate, Surrey. She has a specialist interest in working with individuals who have experienced childhood trauma and/or emotional neglect. Her another interest is providing relationship counselling both for individuals and couples. info@drmarikovanen.co.uk
21 02, 2018

“I have to be….” – What is Your perfectionism covering?

By |2019-03-04T16:23:56+00:00February 21st, 2018|0 Comments

Laura* often feels stressed out and tries to be the perfect employee, a partner, and a mother. She is the one who puts 110% effort into everything and always thinks of others. She feels ashamed if she is not able to achieve her standards. She feels that her world [...]

19 01, 2018

Why is it difficult for me to make changes in my life?

By |2018-01-19T10:48:21+00:00January 19th, 2018|0 Comments

It is that time of the year again, many of us want to make changes in our lives: in relationships, lifestyle (diet, exercise, & relaxation), work, and/or our relationship with ourselves.  Many of us make promises to ourselves to change our behaviours and life but often soon stop doing [...]

8 01, 2018

7 principles to make this your best year yet – Part 2

By |2019-05-29T23:50:58+00:00January 8th, 2018|0 Comments

Are you looking for happiness in your life? How is your New Year coming along now that a couple of weeks has already passed? This week was the “Blue Monday”, which has been named the most depressing day of the year. If you felt it, your year does not have [...]

7 01, 2018

Want a change? 7 principles to make this your best year yet – Part I

By |2019-05-29T23:47:56+00:00January 7th, 2018|0 Comments

Are you suffering from the post-holiday blues and wondering how to improve your life? Perhaps you are dreading that this year will be just the repeat of the same, living with stress and anxiety. Maybe you have a very busy life and there are a lot of demands on you [...]

6 12, 2017

How to survive the festive season with a dysfunctional family

By |2017-12-11T14:00:12+00:00December 6th, 2017|0 Comments

The holiday season can bring out the best and worst in us and in our family members as potentially a lot of time is spent together and there often are expectations for the celebrations. We may have a wish to have a wonderful festive season like in the Hollywood films [...]

18 10, 2017

Why is understanding our emotions and feelings so important?

By |2019-03-04T16:38:35+00:00October 18th, 2017|0 Comments

James* took pride in himself for being a rational man who doesn’t get emotional and he excelled at work. However, although he looked cool and collected on the surface, internally he always had a feeling that he didn’t belong and he had to prove himself to earn people's respect. [...]

26 09, 2017

7 Steps for transforming your relationship – Part 2: Establishing a safe emotional bond and maintaining love

By |2019-04-22T20:13:29+00:00September 26th, 2017|0 Comments

Sue and Steve* recognise that they have become distant in their relationship since having children and they don't have a safe emotional bond. They are bickering over the smallest things, often over matters that feel trivial but at the time it feels like there is a huge wall between them [...]

22 08, 2017

7 Steps for transforming your relationship – Part 1: Assessing relationship patterns and sore spots

By |2019-04-22T20:16:11+00:00August 22nd, 2017|0 Comments

Kate and Tom have been together for 5 years. They are both professionals and have successful careers. They used to get along so well but more recently end up arguing more and more. Kate says that it is because Tom doesn’t listen to her and he is insensitive whilst [...]

28 07, 2017

Healing the mother wound – Part 2: 10 Steps to healing from emotional absence

By |2019-02-25T16:37:38+00:00July 28th, 2017|7 Comments

The greatest pain of all – the mother wound, the emotional absence of your mother in your early years. The first part of this 2-part series looked at what the mother wound means and how it can impact your well-being as an adult. The mother wound can be defined as [...]