Are you haunted by memories of childhood trauma? Do you find yourself grappling with anxiety, depression, or relationship difficulties, perhaps stemming from a mother wound, father wound, or other painful experiences in your past? If so, you’re not alone. But there is hope for healing, and one powerful tool in the journey toward recovery is Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy.

As a counseling psychologist with over 15 years of experience, I’ve witnessed firsthand the transformative impact of EMDR therapy on individuals who have experienced childhood emotional neglect, abuse, and other forms of trauma. In this blog post and the video I have recorded (below), I aim to shed light on how EMDR works and how it can help you heal the wounds of your past.

Here I have previously written about childhood trauma and/or childhood emotional neglect (CEN).

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How mother wound impacts men

Healing your mother wound

What is Childhood Emotional Neglect

Understanding Childhood Trauma

Childhood trauma comes in many forms, from overt abuse to subtle emotional neglect. Whether it’s the absence of nurturing caregivers, critical parenting, or bullying, these adverse experiences can leave lasting scars on our psyche. Our bodies remember every experience, storing unresolved trauma that can manifest in our adult lives as anxiety, depression, and difficulty in relationships.

What is EMDR Therapy?

EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It’s a treatment protocol designed to help individuals reprocess old, unhealed traumas. Unlike traditional talk therapy, EMDR incorporates bilateral stimulation, such as eye movements, to facilitate the processing of traumatic memories.

How Does EMDR Work?

The EMDR process begins with a thorough assessment of your history and current difficulties. Through a series of sessions, your therapist will guide you in revisiting traumatic memories while simultaneously engaging in bilateral stimulation, such as tracking eye movements. This process allows for the creation of new neural pathways, integrating present-day safety with past trauma.

The Healing Process

During EMDR therapy, you’ll have the opportunity to explore and reprocess the emotions, thoughts, and sensations associated with traumatic memories. By allowing these feelings to surface and be processed, you can gradually release their grip on your present-day life. Over time, the old wounds lose their power to trigger distressing reactions, empowering you to respond from a place of strength and resilience.

The Four Levels of Therapy

In addition to EMDR therapy which helps to address the deep roots of the emotional wounds, healing from childhood trauma often involves other therapeutic components.

These include:

  • Building a trusting therapeutic relationship,
  • Engaging in reparenting practices to meet your unmet childhood needs, and
  • Testing out new coping skills in your environment.

Is EMDR Right for You?

If you’re considering EMDR therapy, I offer a free consultation to discuss your situation and determine if we’re a good fit to work together. Whether you’re struggling with the aftermath of childhood trauma or other life challenges, know that healing is possible, and you don’t have to navigate this journey alone.


Healing from childhood trauma is a journey, but it’s one that’s worth taking. With the support of EMDR therapy and a skilled therapist, you can reclaim your power, rewrite your story, and step into a brighter, more hopeful future. If you’re ready to embark on this path to healing, I’m here to walk alongside you every step of the way.

Remember, you are not defined by your past, but you have the power to shape your future. Take the first step toward healing today.

Would you like to know more about the support available, check out my services page.