Are you unhappy in your relationship? Does it feel that you have reached a point where you are not sure what to do or where to go with the relationship with your partner? Or would you like to be able to communicate better your needs in the relationship? Therapy can help you, for example, to understand your style of relating when you are in a romantic relationship, what kind of things have contributed to it, and how to communicate more effectively when in a relationship. Therapy can also assist you in trying out different ways of relating to your partner and work out what it is that you really want and need in a relationship.
If you are in a toxic relationship? Do you feel anxious and perhaps low and you are in a relationship where you feel that you can’t do anything right, your partner sets his/her demands on you and if you don’t behave accordingly you are criticised or even worse….Recently I wrote a post about toxic relationships you can read about the signs here. In therapy, you can start to understand your toxic relationship patterns, why you might have been drawn to this energy and person, how you can start to heal yourself after a toxic relationship and finally move on.
Perhaps you are coming out of a break-up or divorce. It can feel like a scary place to be or perhaps it is a relief. I can help you to process what has happened, go through the loss you have experienced and support in rebuilding your life again. In therapy, you can also learn about your style of connecting with other in a relationship and how this may impact your relationship(s).
Is your family situation getting you down? Do the get-togethers often up in you feeling angry and frustrated. Perhaps there is a family member you have a difficult relationship with and it is difficult to communicate with them. Would you like to learn to understand the family dynamics better and how you can remain calm and not get involved in the drama? In therapy we can help you to understand your position in your family and think about the level of contact You are happy to have with each family member.
Are you looking for love? Do you always end up in similar relationships which are not good for you, as the people don’t cherish the unique and wonderful person that you are? Would you like to be able to understand what keeps you going for the same type? Perhaps you have been single for a long time and now you would like to have a romantic relationship and perhaps even more. In therapy, we can help you to understand what kinds of things and people have contributed to your way forming adult relationships. Having more understanding can be helpful when entering new relationships and taking a new approach. The therapeutic relationship can also be used as a way to test out different ways of relating and subsequently you feel more ready to try out new ways of relating and communicating in your everyday life.
Perhaps you have been hurt in romantic relationships in the past and you have not been able to let go of that burden and it keeps interfering with your relationships. If you have been betrayed in the past you may constantly worry that your new partner will do that too even if you have no real evidence of it. In therapy, we can process your feelings of hurt and let go of it to be able to approach a new relationship without the past wearing you down and affecting your new relationship.
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