Parenting when you have experienced Childhood Emotional Neglect or trauma

What is your gut reaction when you hear your child cry and you cannot see them? Perhaps you panic thinking that they are in danger and something is seriously wrong with them? You get annoyed thinking “not again, I just want a bit of peace and quiet!”? You experience concern [...]

By |2019-05-30T00:41:54+00:00May 21st, 2019|0 Comments

People pleasing can make you anxious and resentful – How to stop it?

Emma* would describe herself as having a strong maternal instinct and she has always seen her role as the one that is there for others and she just wants others to be happy. When a family member or a friend is in need, she is there to support them. She [...]

By |2019-05-30T00:06:07+00:00April 30th, 2019|0 Comments

Top 5 most read blog posts on relationships, childhood neglect and trauma

For this month’s post, I wanted to bring together the five most read posts on my website in the past year in case someone hasn’t seen them yet. I started blogging about three years ago. My aim was to be able to give through my writing hope for healing and [...]

By |2019-03-17T21:56:52+00:00March 17th, 2019|0 Comments

Emotional flexibility vs. rigidity – How childhood emotional neglect or trauma can make it difficult for you to adapt to sudden changes

What happens when your plan is messed up by sudden, unexpected events? You make plans and are either looking forward to something or are relying on things to be working and then something happens and your plans are changed. Such as: You have Christmas planned with the family and friends, [...]

By |2019-02-12T23:02:44+00:00February 12th, 2019|0 Comments

How to not run out of steam and survive the festive season

Are you already starting to dread how you’ll manage the whole festive period without burning out? You may feel that there are so many demands on you during the festive period. Perhaps you have always been the one that organises everything for everyone else Perhaps you are worried about getting [...]

By |2018-12-10T21:35:05+00:00December 6th, 2018|0 Comments

What is the meaning of shame in your life?

Lucy* often doubts herself and questions her decisions in life. She is struggling with anxiety and low mood. Often, she finds herself blushing when the attention is directed at her and she wants to hide away. Life feels difficult as Lucy tries to be a “good girl” and do what [...]

By |2018-12-09T21:50:00+00:00November 27th, 2018|0 Comments

Does your life spark joy? KonMari decluttering philosophy could help with improving your emotional well-being

Bea* has a busy life: finding balance with the demands of her life is difficult (work, family, friends & self). She often feels overwhelmed with everything even her charity work that used to bring her joy now feels just like another task that is draining her. Bea is often [...]

By |2018-06-14T21:56:06+00:00June 9th, 2018|0 Comments

16 Cognitive errors impacting your well-being and relationships

How often do you try to guess what someone else is thinking whether it is your partner, a friend or a work colleague or boss and then potentially act based on what you thought they said or meant? Perhaps you find it difficult to see any good things in [...]

By |2019-03-04T16:21:21+00:00March 20th, 2018|0 Comments

“I have to be….” – What is Your perfectionism covering?

Laura* often feels stressed out and tries to be the perfect employee, a partner, and a mother. She is the one who puts 110% effort into everything and always thinks of others. She feels ashamed if she is not able to achieve her standards. She feels that her world [...]

By |2019-03-04T16:23:56+00:00February 21st, 2018|0 Comments